Years of together making relationship trickier to maintain. Sex that used to be fiery now has become a routine, or worse, none at all. To some people, it does not need to take years; boredom may come just in months.
Improvise! The one most important word when it deals with the bedroom.
Meddling with toys
Sex-toys may seem like unimportant trinkets. But a surprise with a buttplug during the intercourse, or perhaps as early as doing the foreplay, already gives a different sensation to you and your partner.
But always get a hint of his/her permission before the action. Using sex toys can be either a good idea or bad idea. Acknowledge that some people are not comfortable to use foreign objects during the moment as intimate as making love. Seeing how your partner responds to the idea does not eliminate the element of surprise. If he/she shows excitement, you can just keep the time as secret.
There are varieties of sex toys available in the market, for both men and women. If you are a woman, do not assume that your man will not or cannot enjoy penetrative sex-play. Male’s G-spot is in his back door, near the prostate. If you know your man is going to be okay with the innovative idea, try using a vibrator on his G-spot, while you are serving him orally.
Doing it somewhere exciting
Maybe it’s not the way you make love with your partner that has turned your sex life rigid; perhaps you just need a new place. When was the last time you had sex, not in your bedroom? When was the last time you had that romantic moment, like the one during the honeymoon in the Bahamas? Having sex in a new place can give you and your partner excitement.
Try to plan a trip to somewhere you and your partner consider exotic. The tropics may do, cruise ships may do, or if you want to get isolated with just your partner, renting a lodge at a mountain during winter will work thing out.
Or, maybe you and your partner need a challenge. There is this morbid yet naughty and very sexy idea of doing sex in public. Ask for your partner’s consent first, then look for a safe place to do it. There are services, like Sydney Dogging or others, offering the information. The fear of getting caught, and doing it outside gives thrill like no other.
Role-play can be your thing to spice up your sex life. Cosplay, or dominatrix-slave, is worth trying. For cosplaying, just remember what the latest movies or fictional character that your partner talks about enthusiastically. Especially, the character of the opposite sex. And then you can dress up accordingly.
For dominatrix-slave, remember to have the ‘safe-word’ for every action. Inflicting kinky pain might make the situation more arousing and naughty, like using the candle-drops, whip, handcuffs, and other tools you can imagine. But again, establish a limit, and make sure you and your partner know when to stop in this role-play. Otherwise, you both may end up injured.